Bucks parties are more popular than ever. Thousands of men all over the world celebrate their last bucks parties in strip clubs. It’s a rite of passage that has always had some detractors especially from the women who don’t like the idea of having strippers grinding on their future husband’s crotch. The thought of just having their men thinking about other women naked is hard to bear. The truth is, men love it. It doesn’t mean anything but what do you do when your fiancée is dead-set against strippers for bucks party?
Let’s look at your perspective and then consider hers:
Your Perspective:
You probably think that there shouldn’t be a problem. It’s just harmless innocent fun, no big deal. Nothing will come of it. Nothing serious will happen. Watching a naked woman doesn’t mean you want to sleep with them. You could even make the argument that watching Bruce Willis’ “Die hard” a thousand times will not turn you into an AK-47 touting guy.
It’s a rite of passage that millions of men have gone through for years. You could even find a study extolling the virtues of the male-bonding act of going to hit the mens club Melbourne offers with your buddies. So, let’s look at your individual perspectives.
Her Perspective:
What is innocent about a naked woman grinding on a man’s crotch and shoving her breasts in his face? There’s no way he is not getting an erection and what happens when a man is aroused. Watching porn on the computer might be more excusable because there is no physical contact. She has no reason to worry that you might sleep with the porn star. Any sexual urges are all in the head, a stripper is different in that she is only working, she has no desire to sleep with no man.
The guy can make the argument that this is something that every guy does, but does every guy spend $5,000 on a party with people he barely knows. Would he be okay with some muscled, oiled-up dude grinding against your crotch? Besides, why would a man who is about to pledge a lifetime of fidelity to one man wants to look at skinny naked women? ”Am I not hot enough for you?” If it’s for the buddies do they all have girlfriends who are okay with their boyfriends going to a strip ? If not, why should you be okay with your own guy going to a strip club? She trusts you but she doesn’t trust the best man. That’s reasonable if your friend has a questionable past and shady tendencies.
So, who is right?
Right now, before you get married, you should not be arguing about this issue. It’s not worth the aggravation. She has a right to feel what she feels but she doesn’t have to be a dictator about it. She may feel that way because she has never been to a Mens club Melbourne herself and is only going by the stories she has heard. Why not take her out to one so she can experience it hersel?. You could also combine the bucks and hen parties where the day starts off with her bridal party, and your bucks party starting off in separate places so you could each do the things you want to do separately like go-karting and paintballing for you whilst she has a spa day with her friends. Things can progress from there and end up with both of you closing things off at a strip together. She’ll be there and have a reasonable buzz from all that champagne she has been drinking the whole day and maybe be a little chilled out. That seems like a win-win situation.
That is worth a conversation. However, if she is adamant about the no-stripper rule the only thing is to move on and respect her wishes. You have to learn to live with the regret for the next 50 years or better still, put it down on your bucket list as something you want to do before you die.
